Anxiety and Worry: How CBT Helps You Regain Control

26Feb

By Shaun Hotchkiss, CBT Psychotherapist

Anxiety is a normal and adaptive human response. It evolved to help us detect and respond to threat. When functioning well, it sharpens attention, increases alertness and motivates preparation.

However, for many people anxiety becomes persistent, excessive, and difficult to control. Rather than responding to immediate danger, the mind begins anticipating potential future threats. This process is commonly experienced as worry.

While worry can sometimes feel protective or productive, chronic worry often maintains anxiety rather than resolving it. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) offers a structured, evidence-based approach to understanding this cycle and learning how to respond differently.

What Is Worry?

Worry is typically defined as a chain of repetitive, negatively focused thoughts about uncertain future events (Borkovec, Robinson, Pruzinsky, & DePree, 1983). It often takes the form of “what if…” thinking:

  • What if I make a mistake?
  • What if something goes wrong?
  • What if I can’t cope?
  • What if this means something serious?

Research suggests that worry is primarily verbal in nature (rather than image-based) and functions as a cognitive attempt to problem-solve potential threats (Borkovec & Inz, 1990). However, unlike effective problem-solving, worry tends to be circular, abstract and difficult to resolve.

In Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD), excessive and uncontrollable worry is the central feature (American Psychiatric Association, 2013). But problematic worry also plays a role in health anxiety, social anxiety, panic disorder and obsessive-compulsive difficulties.

A CBT Understanding of Worry

From a CBT perspective, worry is not random. It is maintained by identifiable cognitive and behavioural processes.

The cognitive model of Generalised Anxiety Disorder (Dugas et al., 1998; Wells, 1997) highlights several key maintaining factors:

  • Intolerance of uncertainty – difficulty accepting that outcomes cannot be fully predicted.
  • Positive beliefs about worry – e.g. “Worrying helps me prepare”.
  • Negative beliefs about worry – e.g. “My worrying is uncontrollable”.
  • Cognitive avoidance – using worry to avoid more distressing mental imagery.

Worry often provides short-term relief. When a person engages in worry, they may temporarily feel more prepared or more in control. This short-term reduction in distress reinforces the behaviour, increasing the likelihood that worry will be used again in the future.

This creates a maintenance cycle:

  1. Trigger (internal or external).
  2. “What if…” thought.
  3. Anxiety increases.
  4. Worry escalates.
  5. Temporary sense of control.
  6. Anxiety returns.

CBT aims to interrupt this cycle by modifying both the thinking patterns and behavioural responses that maintain worry.

How CBT Helps with Anxiety and Worry

CBT does not aim to eliminate anxiety altogether. Anxiety is a normal emotional response and plays an important protective role. Instead, CBT focuses on helping individuals develop a different relationship with their thoughts and uncertainty.

Interventions may include:

  • Psychoeducation about anxiety and threat systems.
  • Identifying worry triggers and patterns.
  • Differentiating between productive and unproductive worry.
  • Behavioural experiments to test feared predictions.
  • Reducing reassurance-seeking and avoidance.
  • Developing tolerance of uncertainty.
  • Scheduled “worry time”.

One particularly effective and accessible strategy is the use of a worry diary, often combined with scheduled worry time.

The Worry Diary: Postponing Rather Than Suppressing

Attempting to suppress worry is generally ineffective. Research on thought suppression demonstrates that trying not to think about something can paradoxically increase its frequency (Wegner, 1994).

CBT therefore adopts a different strategy: postponement rather than suppression.

The principle is simple:

You may not be able to control which thoughts arise —
but you can influence when and how you engage with them.

A worry diary helps operationalise this.

How a Worry Diary Works

1. Notice the Worry

When a worry thought appears, it is briefly recorded.

For example:
“What if I embarrass myself in tomorrow’s meeting?”

This step builds awareness without engaging in prolonged rumination.

2. Postpone to Scheduled Worry Time

The individual designates a specific daily period (often 20–30 minutes, not close to bedtime) as “worry time.”

When the thought arises outside this period, they tell themselves:

“I will think about this properly during my worry time.”

This is not avoidance — it is structured postponement.

3. Redirect Attention

The individual gently redirects attention to the present activity. This may need to be repeated multiple times.

Over time, the brain begins to learn that worry does not require immediate action.

Why Worry Postponement Is Effective

There are several mechanisms involved:

Reduced Urgency

The brain learns that worry is not an emergency requiring immediate cognitive engagement.

Breaking Reinforcement

Immediate engagement with worry is reinforcing. Delaying it weakens this cycle.

Increased Tolerance of Uncertainty

Postponement strengthens the ability to sit with unanswered questions.

Cognitive Restructuring

Individuals experience that thoughts can be observed and scheduled, rather than cause automatic behaviours.

Research suggests that structured worry postponement can significantly reduce worry frequency and intensity (Borkovec et al., 1983; Dugas & Robichaud, 2007).

Interestingly, many people report that by the time scheduled worry time arrives, the earlier concerns feel less urgent or less believable.

Taking Back Control from Automatic Thoughts

A common experience in anxiety is the sense that thoughts are intrusive and uncontrollable. This can lead to secondary anxiety — worrying about worrying.

CBT reframes this:

While we cannot fully control the automatic emergence of thoughts, we can influence our response to them.

This shift — from reaction to response — is central to regaining a sense of agency.

Over time, individuals often notice:

  • Fewer spontaneous worry episodes
  • Reduced intensity of anxiety
  • Greater psychological flexibility
  • Increased confidence in coping

The goal is not to eliminate uncertainty or silence the mind. It is to respond in ways that reduce the long-term maintenance of anxiety.

Conclusion

Anxiety often persuades us that constant mental rehearsal will prevent bad outcomes. In reality, excessive worry rarely produces certainty. Instead, it sustains physiological arousal and cognitive distress.

CBT offers structured, evidence-based strategies to:

  • Understand the function of worry
  • Break maintenance cycles
  • Strengthen tolerance of uncertainty
  • Develop intentional responses to intrusive thoughts

A worry diary may appear simple, but its power lies in restoring choice.

Not every thought requires immediate attention.
And learning that distinction can be transformative.

References

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.).

Borkovec, T. D., Robinson, E., Pruzinsky, T., & DePree, J. A. (1983). Preliminary exploration of worry: Some characteristics and processes. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 21(1), 9–16.

Borkovec, T. D., & Inz, J. (1990). The nature of worry in generalized anxiety disorder. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 28(2), 153–158.

Dugas, M. J., Gagnon, F., Ladouceur, R., & Freeston, M. H. (1998). Generalized anxiety disorder: A preliminary test of a conceptual model. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 36(2), 215–226.

Dugas, M. J., & Robichaud, M. (2007). Cognitive-behavioral treatment for generalized anxiety disorder: From science to practice. Routledge.

Wegner, D. M. (1994). Ironic processes of mental control. Psychological Review, 101(1), 34–52.

Wells, A. (1997). Cognitive therapy of anxiety disorders: A practice manual and conceptual guide. Wiley.

EXPOSURE IN CBT

31Jan

Why it can feel overwhelming —

and why you don’t have to face it alone

By Shaun Hotchkiss, CBT Psychotherapist

When people hear the word exposure in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), it often brings up images of being pushed into frightening situations before they feel ready. For many, this alone is enough to create anxiety about therapy itself.

If that reaction sounds familiar, it’s important to know that this response is understandable, common, and expected. Exposure works directly with fear — and fear is something the human nervous system is designed to protect us from.

This blog aims to explain what exposure really is, why it can feel daunting, and why support matters — without asking you to do anything on your own.

Why exposure can feel so scary

Exposure involves gradually approaching situations, sensations, thoughts, or memories that have come to feel threatening. These are often things people have learned to avoid because avoidance brings short-term relief from distress.

UK CBT literature consistently explains anxiety as being maintained through this cycle of fear → avoidance → temporary relief → increased fear (NHS Talking Therapies, 2018; Warwick University, n.d.). From this perspective, avoidance is not a weakness — it is a survival strategy that once made sense.

When exposure is suggested, it can feel as though that sense of safety is being taken away. People commonly worry that:

  • anxiety will become overwhelming

  • distress will spiral out of control

  • they will be unable to cope

  • exposure means “forcing” themselves to suffer

NHS and IAPT materials highlight that these fears are a natural response to anticipating threat, not a sign that someone is unsuitable for CBT (TalkPlus, 2023).

What exposure in CBT is not

One reason exposure can feel frightening is that it is often misunderstood.

Exposure is not about being forced into feared situations.

It is not about “just pushing through”.

It is not about eliminating anxiety altogether.

Instead, UK CBT guidance describes exposure as a collaborative, planned, and supported process, usually carried out with a trained therapist (NICE, 2013; NHS Talking Therapies, 2018). The focus is on helping people feel safer engaging with life again, rather than on enduring distress for its own sake.

Letting go of the idea that anxiety must disappear

Many people begin therapy hoping to get rid of anxiety, panic, intrusive thoughts, or uncomfortable bodily sensations entirely. While understandable, this expectation can unintentionally make exposure feel like a test that can be failed.

NHS CBT resources emphasise that the goal of exposure is usually not the complete removal of feelings, but rather learning that these experiences are tolerable, temporary, and less dangerous than they feel (Plymouth Hospitals NHS Trust, 2020).

Over time, many people notice that when they stop avoiding feared situations, their confidence increases and their anxiety naturally reduces — but this happens because their relationship with fear changes, not because fear is eliminated altogether.

Why support makes such a difference

Exposure is most effective when it is carefully planned and paced, taking into account someone’s history, current stress levels, and personal values (NICE, 2013). UK guidance consistently highlights the importance of delivering exposure within a structured therapeutic framework rather than as a self-directed challenge (NHS Talking Therapies, 2018).

Working with a therapist allows people to:

  • make sense of their fear responses

  • agree on goals that feel meaningful and realistic

  • move at a pace that feels manageable

  • reflect on experiences safely and compassionately

This support can be especially important for people whose difficulties are linked to trauma, panic, OCD, social anxiety, or long-standing patterns of avoidance.

A hopeful but realistic message

Exposure is not about becoming fearless. It is about becoming less restricted by fear.

Many people who engage in CBT discover that while uncomfortable feelings may still arise, those feelings no longer dictate their choices. Life begins to expand again — not because fear disappears, but because confidence and trust in oneself grow.

If exposure feels daunting, that does not mean you are “not ready” or “not suitable” for CBT. It often means you are human — and that support could make the difference.

You do not have to face these steps alone.

References

NHS Talking Therapies (2018) The NHS Talking Therapies for Anxiety and Depression Manual. NHS England. Available at: https://www.england.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/nhs-talking-therapies-manual-v7.1-updated.pdf (Accessed: [24.01.2026]).

NICE (2013) Social anxiety disorder: recognition, assessment and treatment (CG159). National Institute for Health and Care Excellence. Available at: https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg159/chapter/recommendations (Accessed: [24.01.2026]).

Plymouth Hospitals NHS Trust (2020) Exposure and habituation. Available at: https://www.plymouthhospitals.nhs.uk/display-pil/pil-exposure-and-habituation-6611/ (Accessed:[ 24.01.2026]).

TalkPlus (2023) Graded exposure. NHS Talking Therapies. Available at: https://www.talkplus.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/Graded-Exposure.pdf (Accessed: [24.01.2026]).

Warwick University (n.d.) Exposure and habituation. University of Warwick. Available at: https://warwick.ac.uk/services/dc/pgr/phd_wellbeing/exposure_and_habituation.pdf (Accessed: [24.01.2026]).

Reclaiming Life After Trauma: How Structured PTSD Therapy Can Help

02Oct

By Shaun Hotchkiss, Trainee CBT Psychotherapist

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is more common than many people realise and often misunderstood. PTSD can develop after experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event, and can affect anyone, regardless of age, background, or circumstances. What I find most important, and hopeful, is that PTSD is highly treatable.

As a trainee CBT therapist, I’ve developed a particular interest in structured, trauma-focused work. I’m especially drawn to how evidence-based approaches like Trauma-Focused CBT (TF-CBT) and imaginal reliving can help people process distressing experiences in a safe, supportive, and structured way. When someone is living with PTSD, they might experience flashbacks, nightmares, heightened anxiety, emotional numbing, or feel constantly on edge. Understandably, many people try to push these memories away or avoid reminders of what happened, but this can keep the trauma feeling “stuck,” and continue to shape and control everyday life in distressing ways.

What I value about structured trauma-focused therapy is that it offers a way through and opportunity to regain a sense control in their thoughts and feelings. One key part of this process can involve reliving sessions, guided therapeutic work where clients revisit the traumatic memory in a safe and controlled environment. This doesn’t mean re-experiencing the trauma in an overwhelming way. It’s about gradually processing what happened, making sense of it, and reducing its emotional grip. Over time, many people find the memory becomes less intrusive in their thoughts and their unhelpful believes about themselves following the incidents changes to more helpful and rational assessments.

Research in the UK continues to support this approach. Ehlers & Clark’s (2000) cognitive model of PTSD is a foundation of many trauma-focused CBT approaches, highlighting how unprocessed trauma memories and negative appraisals can maintain symptoms. NHS guidance, including NICE (2018) recommendations, places trauma-focused CBT as a first-line treatment for PTSD, especially when symptoms have lasted longer than four weeks.

What stands out to me most in this work is the change people begin to experience, when a memory that once felt unbearable becomes something that no longer dictates their life. Structured sessions give people space to face what happened, on their own terms, and to start rebuilding parts of life that may have felt lost.

If you’ve experienced trauma and are feeling stuck or overwhelmed, know that support is available, and recovery is possible.